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« on: October 10, 2016, 10:34:21 PM »
does anyone have any?

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #1 on: October 10, 2016, 11:57:38 PM »
In the early 90's, during the first Gulf War, I had a pen pal from Wales who was working at an airbase in Saudi Arabia. He was teaching the Saudis how to service their Tornadoes. Real nice guy.

Don't know what happened to him.

Then I got a pimp note from some guy in South Africa. I stopped pen "palling" when that happened.

The dude called himself my new boyfriend and wanted money.    :shocked:

I. DON'T. THINK. SO.
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Re: pen pals
« Reply #2 on: October 11, 2016, 02:21:24 AM »

The dude called himself my new boyfriend and wanted money.    :shocked:

I. DON'T. THINK. SO.

that's not good!

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #3 on: October 11, 2016, 03:31:37 AM »
Well I did at school fair few years now I was partnered up with them as they had similar interests also they were Australian. I still have them on FB but after a certain incident I guess I havent talked to them now ah.

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #4 on: October 11, 2016, 05:16:09 AM »
that's not good!

Yeah, he started his first and only letter to me with - "It's your new boyfriend, Isaac!"

Stalk much?! It was one letter, but I felt instantly under siege.
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Re: pen pals
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2016, 03:27:25 AM »
Other than hanging out, pen palling, APA's (Amateur Press Associations), LOC's (letters of comment) to fanzines and comic books, and letters to the editor, were the only way to communicate with like-minded people.  They served the same purpose as forums like this and social networking sites. I'm still involved in that subculture, to an extent, even though I shamefully neglect a lot of my old pen pals. 

I started pen palling in my pre-teens and since then, over the years have pen palled with friends who moved away, cousins, somebody from Ghana, fellow zinesters, and have just written, and saved, a lot of letters.  I treasure them and the whole experience involved in it.

I like forums and my on-line friends too, but they're not necessarily superior to letters.  For some reason that's very hard to define, the old communication ways have their own qualitative difference to the Internet.  A good number of my old friends wouldn't even consider joining me on an Internet forum.  Some are younger than I am.  They've got they're reasons, and I can understand them.

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #6 on: October 16, 2016, 04:55:48 AM »
Other than hanging out, pen palling, APA's (Amateur Press Associations), LOC's (letters of comment) to fanzines and comic books, and letters to the editor, were the only way to communicate with like-minded people.  They served the same purpose as forums like this and social networking sites. I'm still involved in that subculture, to an extent, even though I shamefully neglect a lot of my old pen pals. 

I started pen palling in my pre-teens and since then, over the years have pen palled with friends who moved away, cousins, somebody from Ghana, fellow zinesters, and have just written, and saved, a lot of letters.  I treasure them and the whole experience involved in it.

I like forums and my on-line friends too, but they're not necessarily superior to letters.  For some reason that's very hard to define, the old communication ways have their own qualitative difference to the Internet.  A good number of my old friends wouldn't even consider joining me on an Internet forum.  Some are younger than I am.  They've got they're reasons, and I can understand them.

interesting stuff, wish i had that pen pal experience!

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #7 on: October 18, 2016, 08:23:33 AM »
In the early 90's, during the first Gulf War, I had a pen pal from Wales who was working at an airbase in Saudi Arabia. He was teaching the Saudis how to service their Tornadoes. Real nice guy.

Don't know what happened to him.

Then I got a pimp note from some guy in South Africa. I stopped pen "palling" when that happened.

The dude called himself my new boyfriend and wanted money.    :shocked:

I. DON'T. THINK. SO.

That sounds hilarious to me. But I would have immediately stopped talking to him after laughing for less than 10 minutes. I would pen pal someone (with a different handwriting to make sure they don't know who I am). But, I am iffy on it.

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #8 on: October 22, 2016, 06:09:38 AM »
That sounds hilarious to me. But I would have immediately stopped talking to him after laughing for less than 10 minutes.

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #9 on: December 24, 2016, 08:32:52 PM »
I had penpals in the past. Either they lost interest in e-mailing or messaging me or I lost interest in e-mailing or messaging them. There's no point to it. We get to know some information about each other, but it eventually fades because there's no reason to keep talking about ourselves when we won't meet and share activities offline. We can't form a stable connection without nonverbal language. We have to see, hear, smell, and feel them to connect.
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Re: pen pals
« Reply #10 on: December 26, 2016, 04:40:30 AM »
I had penpals in the past. Either they lost interest in e-mailing or messaging me or I lost interest in e-mailing or messaging them. There's no point to it. We get to know some information about each other, but it eventually fades because there's no reason to keep talking about ourselves when we won't meet and share activities offline. We can't form a stable connection without nonverbal language. We have to see, hear, smell, and feel them to connect.

i agree

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Re: pen pals
« Reply #11 on: April 17, 2017, 09:51:28 PM »
I had penpals in the past. Either they lost interest in e-mailing or messaging me or I lost interest in e-mailing or messaging them. There's no point to it. We get to know some information about each other, but it eventually fades because there's no reason to keep talking about ourselves when we won't meet and share activities offline. We can't form a stable connection without nonverbal language. We have to see, hear, smell, and feel them to connect.

Yes, i agree too.

But anyways~
I had a pen pal last year, and though we don't talk anymore, he is still very very dear to me and has a special place in my heart. ;w; :love77:

I met him on another forum and I made the first act of talking to him because he seemed positive but also wise and open to listening to any sort of wisdom. Plus, I kinda 'stalked' him around the forum and his writings spoke to me. xP
Well, we ended up emailing each other back and forth and found such a strong connection. Like our words really resonated, we kept saying to each other that it's like writing to a doppelganger! xP
It was almost too good to be true!

Unfortunately, we were both going through the same 'dark night of the soul' so we constantly got too exhausted to write. We scheduled to email each other sometimes after a few days, weeks, or even months. We shared a lot of insights and wisdom with one another and very quickly we fell in love. But I didn't even knew what he looked like! And he was very dear to me and relationship was extremely tender but honest, so I told him I was falling in love with him and he said he felt the same.
However, the universe was sending me messages along the lines of 'DON'T FALL IN LOVE!!!' Like, I heard songs with the same message and I was really drawn to those songs at the time. Even the lyrics were relatable! This was the song ~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haJzi1Q98_I

Also, before meeting him, I told myself that I don't want to be open to any relationships because I wanted to focus on building myself up first. Also, with what I was going through, I woke up almost every day, even if I had a good sleep, feeling exhausted. I was really really not ready for any relationships. I actually wanted to be alone from society for a year, but of course, that was not going to happen and couldn't.

Anyways, to make it short. We didn't take our relationship to another level. He was really sweet and listened to me about us not making that move. I more we talked to each other the more we realized we were going on different paths. We came together to learn something important, and from him, I learned to be compassionate with myself. And now we have learned what was needed from each other, we had to part ways. Both of our intuitions signaled it was time to part.

I remembered crying a lot, but I don't think he was my true love. The relationship we had was love on a different level. I felt like he was a part of me, like he was my brother, not of flesh and blood, but of the same soul line if that makes sense....It's not something easily described... But I didn't want to marry him. I really felt we had to learn from each other.

But I'm grateful to have met him.
I hope he's doing well.


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Re: pen pals
« Reply #12 on: April 21, 2017, 03:58:31 AM »
Yes, i agree too.

But anyways~
I had a pen pal last year, and though we don't talk anymore, he is still very very dear to me and has a special place in my heart. ;w; :love77:

I met him on another forum and I made the first act of talking to him because he seemed positive but also wise and open to listening to any sort of wisdom. Plus, I kinda 'stalked' him around the forum and his writings spoke to me. xP
Well, we ended up emailing each other back and forth and found such a strong connection. Like our words really resonated, we kept saying to each other that it's like writing to a doppelganger! xP
It was almost too good to be true!

Unfortunately, we were both going through the same 'dark night of the soul' so we constantly got too exhausted to write. We scheduled to email each other sometimes after a few days, weeks, or even months. We shared a lot of insights and wisdom with one another and very quickly we fell in love. But I didn't even knew what he looked like! And he was very dear to me and relationship was extremely tender but honest, so I told him I was falling in love with him and he said he felt the same.
However, the universe was sending me messages along the lines of 'DON'T FALL IN LOVE!!!' Like, I heard songs with the same message and I was really drawn to those songs at the time. Even the lyrics were relatable! This was the song ~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haJzi1Q98_I

Also, before meeting him, I told myself that I don't want to be open to any relationships because I wanted to focus on building myself up first. Also, with what I was going through, I woke up almost every day, even if I had a good sleep, feeling exhausted. I was really really not ready for any relationships. I actually wanted to be alone from society for a year, but of course, that was not going to happen and couldn't.

Anyways, to make it short. We didn't take our relationship to another level. He was really sweet and listened to me about us not making that move. I more we talked to each other the more we realized we were going on different paths. We came together to learn something important, and from him, I learned to be compassionate with myself. And now we have learned what was needed from each other, we had to part ways. Both of our intuitions signaled it was time to part.

I remembered crying a lot, but I don't think he was my true love. The relationship we had was love on a different level. I felt like he was a part of me, like he was my brother, not of flesh and blood, but of the same soul line if that makes sense....It's not something easily described... But I didn't want to marry him. I really felt we had to learn from each other.

But I'm grateful to have met him.
I hope he's doing well.

that's quite the story! i used to chat to someone i found on here often, but their email must have been deleted, can't contact them anymore :(

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« Reply #13 on: April 21, 2017, 06:28:21 AM »
that's quite the story! i used to chat to someone i found on here often, but their email must have been deleted, can't contact them anymore :(

Kipper,

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« Reply #14 on: April 21, 2017, 07:16:18 AM »
that's quite the story! i used to chat to someone i found on here often, but their email must have been deleted, can't contact them anymore :(

Oh no! Maybe Book can help you! She's offering ^^
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« Reply #15 on: April 21, 2017, 10:17:00 PM »
Oh no! Maybe Book can help you! He's offering ^^

I'm a woman.  :tongue:
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I'm a woman.  :tongue:

OH I'm so sorry! I mean SHE!
I feel bad now  :icon_alabanza: :icon_alabanza:
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« Reply #17 on: September 24, 2017, 08:50:55 AM »
I have a Japanese Pen Pal we used to write like once a month but now its more like once or twice a year on birthdays a christmas usually. Sometimes life just gets in the way.

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« Reply #18 on: September 24, 2017, 10:17:07 PM »
I have a Japanese Pen Pal we used to write like once a month but now its more like once or twice a year on birthdays a christmas usually. Sometimes life just gets in the way.

:( sad to hear, did you write in japanese?