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mr.lol

sick of this
« on: January 11, 2012, 04:20:39 AM »
i hate so much when other people around me like my parents or my old friends tell me that i never go out and sitting all day in my pc....i mean what the smurf do they care about me..why cant everybody understand that i prefer staying home and stop bothering me all the time..for example some friends from school come to my house without even telling me ..they just come ring my dorbell and force me to go out with them..even though i dont want it..i hate that so much..sometimes i am thinking about going somewhere far away from my house so i can finally find some peace and quiet..i am sure other guys here have the same problem with me..

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #1 on: January 11, 2012, 04:40:58 AM »
Oh my god, people your age actually come to your house and *force* you to go out with them. How *do* you manage to sustain yourself through that kind of torment?

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #2 on: January 11, 2012, 04:47:54 AM »
I feel the same way as you mr.lol /hugs Some people dont understand how much we need so much space,  it always happens not just when youre at school and college.. but also at work. Maybe they thought all people like to be surrounded by others? Even til now, the pressure always comes from my family.. I dont know what to do with them.
I didnt dump my 'friends' though, that would be rude.. i made them giving up reaching me instead. Turn off your phone, refuse invitations, sooner or later theyll get tired of asking you doing stuff /lol

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #3 on: January 11, 2012, 05:33:44 AM »
true..and trust me i do these things every day

Post Merge: January 11, 2012, 05:34:57 AM
Oh my god, people your age actually come to your house and *force* you to go out with them. How *do* you manage to sustain yourself through that kind of torment?
yep u cant believe how much it sucks..but i cant do anything when they come to my place and they ask me..i never answer phones btw..

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2012, 05:50:22 AM »
you ever thought of just telling them you need some space? or even just answering your phone and saying 'not today Jim, I have yoga class'?

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #5 on: January 11, 2012, 10:08:32 PM »
Heya. Some people don't realize the importance of personal space. Take a deep breath. Put on your game face, mate. It's going to be okay. Eventually. 

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #6 on: January 11, 2012, 11:04:41 PM »
They seem like great friends to me. They may not understand but they seem supportive. Try telling them you need your space. Just because you're a loner that doesn't mean you shouldn't hang out with your friends. Friends and family is the most important thing in your life. And it's normal to be concerned if you stay in your room all the time. Try and show them that everything is fine, but do it properly. Smile, laugh and enjoy their company so that they won't have to worry.

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #7 on: January 12, 2012, 03:24:55 AM »
Albs has a point... I think there's nothing to lose for having supportive people in your life :)
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Re: sick of this
« Reply #8 on: January 12, 2012, 07:46:01 AM »
What's good, Mr.Lol

I don't even like if family come unannounced, yet alone friends. Albs has it down packed though (seeing the big picture, problem, & solution). There's a proper way to do things and, depending on your approach, things will go downhill or look up for you. Gotta be grateful for the supportive friends and family, but they do need to know that you're okay and whether they believe it or not.. it's essential to respect your space. "Smile, laugh, and enjoy their company".. I believe, is the most clever & effective way to send them the message: I'm fine, people.. just don't be so demanding or I'll disappear lol. If you give'em attitude or show a lack of social skills.. don't be surprised if your "friends/family" want you to gain some and encourage the social life on you. Irony, right? You would think that Attitude/Anti-socialism would make ur "friends/family" give u more space, but it does exactly the opposite. Hey, what are friends/family for, right? They should want you to have a healthy attitude/social life.. that's in your best interest.

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #9 on: January 12, 2012, 03:44:59 PM »
^^Well said, Ross. :smiley:

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #10 on: January 13, 2012, 09:59:24 PM »
They seem like great friends to me. They may not understand but they seem supportive. Try telling them you need your space. Just because you're a loner that doesn't mean you shouldn't hang out with your friends. Friends and family is the most important thing in your life. And it's normal to be concerned if you stay in your room all the time. Try and show them that everything is fine, but do it properly. Smile, laugh and enjoy their company so that they won't have to worry.
i will try it thanx mate

Post Merge: January 13, 2012, 10:00:28 PM
What's good, Mr.Lol

I don't even like if family come unannounced, yet alone friends. Albs has it down packed though (seeing the big picture, problem, & solution). There's a proper way to do things and, depending on your approach, things will go downhill or look up for you. Gotta be grateful for the supportive friends and family, but they do need to know that you're okay and whether they believe it or not.. it's essential to respect your space. "Smile, laugh, and enjoy their company".. I believe, is the most clever & effective way to send them the message: I'm fine, people.. just don't be so demanding or I'll disappear lol. If you give'em attitude or show a lack of social skills.. don't be surprised if your "friends/family" want you to gain some and encourage the social life on you. Irony, right? You would think that Attitude/Anti-socialism would make ur "friends/family" give u more space, but it does exactly the opposite. Hey, what are friends/family for, right? They should want you to have a healthy attitude/social life.. that's in your best interest.

Reverse Psychology has it's benefits, IF you know how to use it.
i understand now why is that happening..thanx for the advice bro

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #11 on: January 14, 2012, 05:45:11 AM »
That's a really common problem around here. But the advice above is good.

I don't get asked to go out much because people generally have learned that I don't want to. But sometimes they do and when they do ask they're pretty pushy about it. But it's because they care, and I usually go along. I don't usually regret it, either; I usually have a good time, but I also need to have my own way back so I can leave when I need to.
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Re: sick of this
« Reply #12 on: January 15, 2012, 07:25:36 AM »
Yep Prom that's the way I always did it back when I was Mr's age.  I'd go and socialize a bit but I always had a way to exit gracefully.  These days there's only two people that can get me out of my house.  Squid and my 'adopted' daughter.  Totally blew her fiancees mind when I showed up for his birthday party. 

Mr. one word of advice.  I'm in my late 40's.  I've traveled all over the country and done a lot of stuff most people can only dream about.  Get out some and experience the world even if you do it on your own.  Wait till you've done that stuff to become a total hermit. 

I love nothing better than sitting here in front of my monitors goofing online, playing games, or watching a movie / TV show.  But I'd hate to think that that's all I ever did.  Not that I think there's anything wrong with being a loner.  Heck I love the lifestyle and there's really very little you can't do on your own.

Best of luck to you my friend. 

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Re: sick of this
« Reply #13 on: January 23, 2012, 02:37:27 PM »
Wow friends actually visit you to hang out with them. I guess you don't know what it's like to never be visited by your classmates or anything at home... ever... or wanting someone to visit you and hang out with you but never receiving that opportunity. It doesn't feel very good.